Let’s talk about confidence.
Confidence is a tough one. It’s that nasty little thing that we all need, never have quite enough of for the right things, and often have too much for the wrong things. Of course by the right things I mean ourselves, our work, our worth, and our accomplishments. And by the wrong things I mean our ability to chug 10 beers at the age of 35, drive while texting, and our pearls of wisdom in a 2am Facebook update.
I’ve always been a fairly confident person. That is, until I became a photographer. Ask me to write a 35-page thesis on plant-ant interactions in a day and I am confident in my smarts. Ask me anything about parenting a toddler and I am confident I’m doing a great job. Ask me to regularly blog my images and I recoil.
And you know what? It pisses me off! Excuse the language, but there is just no reason for me to feel this way. My business suffers from it – I can’t get new business if I don’t share what I’m working on. Most of the images on my website are outdated and from last year. It’s not that I don’t have a ton of great images to share, it’s that I just don’t have the confidence that they are as good as they should be. I have well over 20 sessions that I have permission to share and post, and I have shared some here, some on facebook and whatnot. But not anywhere close to as many as I should or could share.
I’m sure the reason is that there are TONS of great boudoir and glamour photographers out there, and I am friends with so many of them. They are incredible artists, and get the peer recognition that I don’t get. But there’s the catch 22 – how do I get recognition if I’m not sharing my images? What a dumb cycle I’ve gotten myself into. No amount of “wow, I love your work, you are great!” has changed the way I feel about it, either. Even knowing how much I have learned, how far I have come, and how many people admire me helps. I have to change me, not anyone else.
What about you? What are you confident about? Where do you lack confidence? Solutions to the confidence problem are challenging, and it’s so easy to just say to someone, “That’s silly, your work is beautiful,” or “No one cares that you are 30 pounds overweight, don’t worry about it.” Affirmation doesn’t always solve the problem.
So let’s work on this together. My goal is to blog 2 new sessions a week. It might make me shrivel up in a corner and hide from the internet at first, but it’s time to shake this off. What is your goal? How are you going to break the cycle?
If your beauty or body or femininity or self-worth is your confidence weak link, let me help you. Come in for a confidence builder session and I will show you how awesome you are. No tricks, no affirmation, just the honest to the core trust on exactly how great you are. And book in the next week (by June 8th) and I will give you a $100 off coupon to help give you the kick in the pants you need.
We can do this. Let’s grow our confidence together.
Join the conversation and see that you aren’t alone in your insecurities!